Dating And Sexual Confidence Series Pt 7

Dating And Sexual Confidence Series Pt 7 

Is sexiness a part of some people's DNA? No, seriously is it?Extensive evidence says that both men and women form a schema of "sexy" according to media and fashion stereotypes about sexiness. They first look for men/women who fit media and fashion model stereotypes, because that's what we've been told sexiness is; then start realizing that's not where the sexiness is.So where is the sexiness? But before we get to that, where isn't the sexiness?Not in good looks - It's true that some people are born better looking than others and that mere fact makes them more noticeable compared to those of us not born with great looks. But study after study shows that sexy people are not any more good looking or better dressed than the average looking person. Sexiness goes beyond conventional good looks and certainly beyond prada and amani. Some good looking, well dressed people can be lookers, but hardly "sexy".Not in trying too hard - Sexiness is something that you either have or you don't. Any trying too hard to be sexy can be the unsexiest thing there is, especially if it's uselessly and needlessly out-there. If it looks like you spent hours on it or if you are working it too hard, it can seem like a flat detail on a painting -- precisely done for no added value. It is the sheer effortless and easy nonchalance with which genuinely sexy people achieve their sexiness that makes them sexy. They never try to be sexy, they just are sexy.Not in second guessing - Regardless of whether you have good looks or not, if you do not believe deep down inside that you're "sexy" - you are not. You can pretend for the real or imagined "cameras" (hey, look at me, I'm trying to do sexy, but I feel like shit) but if you are posing just to appear sexy, it's not sexy.Not in age - They say beauty wears thin but sexiness increases with age. As you will see below, a lot of what constitutes sexy is really how we communicate our inner confidence and inner youthfulness to others. You can fool some people some of the time but you can't fool all people all of the time. The attempt to fool people into believing you're younger than you are just makes you appear less confident about your inner beauty - which is your inner youthfulness.If sexiness is not in any of the usual suspects, what is it about some people that we can't help but be drawn to their magic, even if only in small doses?Let's look at just ten feral qualities that these people have in common, qualities that intrigue us, that seem to calls us by name, and taunt us with fantasies...1. The look of mischief - a look that has laughter and delight in the eyes. They have a touch of untamed naughtiness under their omniscient gaze - a window to the soul.2. Sophisticated mysteriousness -elegant yet edgy, rugged but still polished, friendly yet reserved. They posses a sort of "captivating unknown" or "dissonance" that keeps our "want to know" minds on edge.3. Relaxed vulnerability - a kind of carefree childlike fearlessness. They put themselves out there partly because they feel secure enough to just be themselves.4. Self-assured confidence - fundamental ease in their own skin. They stride into a room with poised surety that their aura compels us to notice them.5. Wit and Humour - wise, funny and generous with their time and their presence. They can cheer up mundane situations and experiences.6. Lavish sensuousness - a peculiar mingling of voluptuous pleasure and vibrant soulfulness. They are in every bit immersed in the depth and richness of their beingness.7. Health and abundance - physical fitness, resources, abilities. Whatever they have, they are content and that makes it look like they have it in plenty8. Heartfelt sincerity - genuineness, simplicity, openness. They show strong and authentic emotions and affection.9. Exuberant vitality - passion, intensity, drive, bounce - that reveals both the fire and desire within. They are positively overflowing with genuine appetite for life - and for living.10. Human warmth - kindness, compassion, approachability. They are interested in others and are interesting themselves.The good news is that, these are all qualities that we all have within - some in smaller amounts than others. The REALLY good news is that it's not that hard at all to develop these qualities to fully blossoming levels. All we have to do is remove the mental, emotional, social and spiritual blocks obscuring what is our innate radiance. Innate radiance? Hmm, in this sense we can say sexiness is in everybody's DNA.Once you start embodying one quality, it will cause another one to follow suit, then another and another. I've seen men and women literally transform into wholesomely sexy people (without any plastic surgery) that I am like "You Sexy Thing! Where Did You Come From?"

An Argument for Sexy Bras

An Argument for Sexy Bras

 Many women, when shopping for a bra, tend to go for cheaper, utilitarian options. This seems to be especially true of larger-busted women, who often say that they can't find beautiful, sexy bras that offer adequate fit and support. Of course, it's understandable, when funds are limited, to go with the cheapest option, but that doesn't have to mean the most boring! Wearing a fun, sexy bra is a great way to feel feminine and beautiful any time. You can wear a sexy bra under a t-shirt or a button-down and instantly feel like a gorgeous siren.One issue with sexy bras some women may have is that a lot of embellishment can be hard to hide under thin clothing. Too much lace or embroidery can create a bumpy appearance under certain fabrics. However, this does not have to limit your sexiness! There are plenty of options that look smooth and sleek under clothing and are still pretty, sexy, and flattering underneath. You can play with different colors and prints, and choose from a variety of shapes and styles to find those that make you look and feel sexiest. There is also the choice of whether to wear a push-up bra, padded or unpadded, and front or back closure. A sexy bra doesn't have to be elaborate to be exquisite. There's a lot to be said for simple elegance, even in undergarmentsOf course, if you're not limited by the style of clothing you're going to wear over it, the possibilities for a sexy bra are endless. Under a thicker top (or even one where the bra is allowed to peek out a little), you can experiment without limits. There are sexy bras with lace, frills, beads, and other embellishment, and these will make you feel super-feminine and beautiful. Half-cup and plunge bras are daring and sexy, and even if you're the only one to know you're wearing it you'll feel like you have a sexy secret! The perfect sexy bra can transform a woman into a beautiful goddess. Whether the rest of the world knows your secret or not, feeling beautiful changes the way you carry yourself and improves your self-confidence. Even if you're wearing jeans and an old t-shirt, just the knowledge that you've got a sexy bra on will instantly make you project a more alluring image. The effects are even better when you pair a sexy bra with a pair of matching panties. Matching undies, whether it's just a question of matching colors or getting fancy paired sets, maybe with lace or other embellishments, will make you feel like a sexy temptress. Merely the process of picking out sexy bras and panties gives you that little boost of self-pampering that makes you feel like the incredible woman you are.No matter what your budget, you should be able to find that great sexy bra to fit your figure. Harder-to-fit women have the option of online lingerie boutiques as well as in-store fitting assistance, and the little bit of extra effort you take to get away from the plain-white-cotton standbys will be well worth it, and will show in the way you look and the sexy way you feel.

The Sexy Wife Story

The Sexy Wife Story

 The Sexy Wife StoryPaul's sexy wife was all Howard could think of. Paul's hot wife? Paul's naked wife? Howard could not figure her out. Was Paul's wife a cheating wife? Was she going to be his angel wife lover? Paul's sexy wife dominated Howard's thoughts. She was certainly a lot sexier than Howard's ex wife.Howard considered suggesting wife swapping to Paul. Wife swapping? You have to have a wife to begin with. Howard only had an ex wife. No wife for a decent wife swap, imagine. Wife sharing was another matter - a conventional, everyday matter. Wife sharing! What an idea. Howard was going to make Paul an offer to do some wife sharing. Paul? What do you say we share your sexy wife? Nah. Paul would never go for it. He had met his wife in Brazil and brought her over only a year ago. Met his hot wife in Rio, imagine. Those Brazilian girls are something. Ten years from now? You never know. But not right now. Howard stared at Paul's wife pic. She was one hot chick, no doubt about that. She was not a mature wife yet, not the sorry type that parades in baggy pants in front of the whole world, rolling a stroller in front of her, gossiping on the cell phone. No. She was like the time traveler wife he had once seen in a movie - out of this world. He tried plying her with some casual conversation. Paul caught him in the act and said something one would expect Paul to say in such cases. Don't screw with my wife. With my beautiful wife. With my innocent, open wife.Howard pictured Paul's wife in bikini. Quite a sight. What a naughty wife Paul had! Even though she was Brazilian, and Tiger Woods' wife was Swedish (wasn't she), there was a resemblance between Paul's sexy wife and Tiger Woods' sexy wife, Howard thought. Paul's wife was a world wide wife. She wore special clothes, expensive numbers, showing a lot of leg. Showing a lot of wife leg. Paul's wife leg. Paul did not deserve her. One windy day Howard glimpsed Paul's wife's pantie. Just a bit of wife pantie showing.She could barely speak English and did not have any friends yet. She must be a very lonely wife indeed. Or so Howard thought. Lonely wife. Imagine. Paul's wife - lonely.She wasn't particularly bright. One day at work, Paul offered his coworkers to guess whether she was superintelligent or dumb. Rate my wife, he said. Imagine. "Rate my wife." What a jerk. No respect. Maybe I should get a Russian wife, Howard thought. Getting a Russian wife is easy. You just pay a lot of money. There are many girls in Russia, and a lot of them want to be your Russian wife. If I had a Russian wife, Howard thought, I could do some serious wife swapping with Paul. A Russian wife is always beautiful. A total reality wife, a dream wife, parading in sexy Russian wife lingerie. He once saw this in a movie. It was some kind of crazy, stupid, platitudinous wife movie - a movie that only a stupid (if sexy) wife could have enjoyed, but the frame stuck in his mind - a sexy Russian wife I lingerie. It would be nice to be able to take Paul's wife to the beach. Imagine going to the beach with Paul's naked wife. It would have to be a nude beach. Paul's wife in the nude. Paul's swinger wife in the nude. Ah, vanity! Ah, ignominy! Paul's interracial wife was all Howard could think of. It would be nice to get Paul's sexy wife drunk. A drunk wife might be more of an open wife... open-minded wife, that is, than a sober wife, English or no English. Howard once read in some stupid book that an Asian wife was likely to be more responsive to the wife-share concept than any other kind of sexy wife. Howard did not want an Asian house wife, he wanted Paul's hot wife from Rio. He wanted Paul's naughty house wife. Stare at that wife photo again. Go ahead. I dare you.A shared wife, a hot wife from Rio - Paul's wife.Two years later, Paul's wife got pregnant. She did not lose even an ounce of her charm... sex appeal... whatever. She was Paul's sexy wife all the same. Paul's pregnant sexy wife. Paul was Howard's friend, and all Howard could think of was Paul's pregnant wife. "Don't screw with my sexy wife" - that came after Howard made another attempt to strike up a risquรฉ conversation with Paul's sexy wife. Paul didn't like it. Paul's sexy wife could now speak some English and understood humor and flirting. "Don't screw with my sexy wife" - what a jerk. With at least two feet of that sexy wife stocking showing, she strutted in front of Howard, smiling her Brazilian smile. No desperate house wife, oh no, not she. Paul and Paul's sexy wife. Husband and wife. He saw her again, when she was about eight months pregnant. She had a huge shiner, and she looked desperate. Paul's desperate wife. He asked her what the hell happened, and she told him - you guessed it - an old wife tail about falling down the stairs. Was Paul a wife beater? His buddy Paul? What's this world coming to, folks? Come on, Paul's wife! Give Howard some material for a good cheating wife story. Paul's dirty wife, Paul's hot wife, give me a wife story, Howard thought. He now has an Asian wife and a Russian ex wife. Paul's sexy wife has three kids. They had dinner together the another night.

How Did I Get My First Sexy Lingerie

How Did I Get My First Sexy Lingerie

As the old saying says "Fine clothes make the man". Beautiful sexy dresses can make people look more beautiful, attracting and sexy, so does the sexy lingerie. Though I have many different kinds of sexy lingerie now, I still can not forget my first sexy lingerie which I bought in three years ago.Three years ago, I just entered the university. I lived in the university dormitory with other three girls. They all paid attention to what they wore. They bought all kinds of clothes, especially the sexy costumes. When they put the sexy dresses and costumes on, they completely turned to another people. I had not enough money to buy these beautiful clothes. They suggested to me that the cheap sexy dresses and costumes was a best choice, too. They introduced to me these different kinds of sexy dresses and costumes. The dresses and costumes that can make people look very sexy and pretty and attracting can be called sexy dresses and costumes. The right sexy dresses and costumes can enhance woman's breast while cover her fat waist.I could not resist the temptation of the sexy dresses. I went into a sexy lingerie store with my roommates in a weekend. This store only sold the cheap sexy lingerie in different styles and sizes. At that time I had known that the sexy lingerie not only comprises of bras and panties but also a lot of other items such as chemise, camisole, bustiers, basque, thongs, corsets, pantyhose, and teddy and so on. At the same time, I was astonished that the sexy lingerie can be made from so many different materials such as silk, satin, lace, nylon, spun rayon fabric, polynosic fabric and chiffon and so on. My roommates had picked and chosen these beautiful sexy lingeries at once. Some of them even had chosen more than one piece of sexy lingerie. At the beginning I picked up a piece of red spun rayon fabric bras decorated the black peony. But I caught sight of a piece of pink polynosic fabric bras. I could not make a decision which one I should buy. Though both of them were not very expensive, I could not buy both of them at the same time. My roommates gave me the advice that the red one was prettier than the pink one. I had to put down the pink one and bought the red one.The red bras were my first sexy lingerie. Though it was very cheap, I liked it very much. I often wore it. This piece of sexy lingerie can help me to highlight the best parts of my body and perfectly display my feminine image. It was old and could not be worn at last, but I often remember it and my roommates.

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Become A Sexy Panties Woman

Become A Sexy Panties Woman

Many women think wearing sexy panties like thongs, g-strings, and string bikini panties as something for the very young or very risquรฉ. These women end up stuck in white-cotton-brief mode and somehow never get out of it. Comfortable, sure. Sexy? Not at all. Confident? Never.Don't let this happen to you! Slipping into sexy panties and wearing sexy panties all the time is an indulgence every woman owes herself. Yes, wearing them may take some getting used to, but you'll be amazed at the boost you give your self-image wearing sexy thongs or panties.That's right. Giving yourself permission to become a sexy panties woman can make you more open in all areas of your life. With some sexy panties under your business suit, you may find yourself making a bold statement at work when you're normally silent. You may find yourself suddenly swimming against the corporate tide when normally you swim along with everyone else.Giving yourself permission to be a bit bolder in one area of your life often spills over into other areas. You start to feel braver, more confident, and this increases your self-esteem so that you become more assertive. So assertive, in fact, that with a great new pair of sexy thongs hiding underneath your clothes, you may find you have the courage to strike up a conversation with that man you've been attracted to for months. (Don't be surprised if you end up with an invitation to have a drink after work.)Skeptical that sexy panties can change your life? Of course you are! Anyone would be. But...How will you know if you never give a pair of sexy thongs a try?Where do you start? Hop on the Internet and start browsing. If you're like most women, shopping for sexy underwear and erotic clothing is easier to do in the privacy of your own home. This is especially true for women that are members of the white cotton brief club rather than the sexy panties and thongs club. Shopping online also gives you an opportunity to explore what's sexy to you-and that may lead you to buy more than panties.Remember, the worst thing that will happen to you after you start wearing sexy panties is that you'll find you feel sexier. Even if you don't express it outwardly, you'll realize you're thinking of yourself in a more sensual way, that you become more sensual in general. There's just something inwardly thrilling about wearing stylish sexy panties. If this weren't true, Victoria's Secret wouldn't be the mega company it is today. It's a fact: Sexy panties make you feel sexy, and that's a great feeling. So toss out the white granny briefs and find a pair of fuchsia sexy thongs to slip under your everyday clothing. It's a decision you won't regret, and one that just could change your life in ways you never imagined.

Await Sweet Surrender with Sexy Black Babydolls

Await Sweet Surrender with Sexy Black Babydolls

A sexy babydoll collection is necessary to complete every woman's wardrobe. You can find the color, size, and fabric of your choice to allure your lover. Shopping for sexy nightgowns or sexy sleepwear is no more a chore.Does your man get super excited with just the mention of sexy nightgowns or sexy sleepwear? Then, it's time to don your sexy hat and give your man a visual treat! Here are some tips for choosing sexy lingerie. Black is most likely the sexiest color on a woman and sexy babydolls fascinating pieces of lingerie that will make you look smashing almost instantly. Grab the chance to update your wardrobe with the blissful sexy babydoll collection from SummitFashions, an online web store for women's sexy lingerie. Try the SeXy Black Microfiber Babydoll to set the mood! This sweet lingerie comes with a matching thong panty too. With cute ruffle hem open back and flirty padded under wire cup with rhinestone embellishment, this lingerie set looks simply adorable. Just figure out how to put on this sensual outfit and adjust them in a sultry way to woo your lover! If you are completely smitten by stockings, then you could get the Sexy Black Net Babydoll with Lace Ruffle Trim. This stunning sheer black babydoll set comes complete with a matching thong, garters, and thigh hi stockings to leave you looking hot and alluring! Just get the sexy thing on and feel the snug fit that come with it! Men love women in naughty lingerie! You can dress up in a Sexy Sheer Black Halter Babydoll set to turn just another night into a sexy, thrilling adventure! Team up this sexy mini dress with a sexy hat to look stunning. Keep adding to your sexy babydoll collection. Shop from SummitFashions and don that sexy look forever!

Slutty Versus Sexy

Slutty Versus Sexy

Now that you intend on having an open and honest sex life, how do you plan on getting him into the sack? Slutty and sexy are a couple of very effective tools you have at your disposal for snagging a guy. Both tactics will get you a man, but will they secure him for the long term? There are a few things you need to know about acting slutty versus acting sexy before you use them.SluttyIt's so easy for women to be slutty. It only requires two ingredients: skimpy clothes and attitude. When it comes to clothes, it's not about what you're wearing, but how little you're wearing. It's about skirts so short that they come with a government health warning. It's about blouses and tops that are so see-through that they might as well not be there. Cut is also important, as items should either be cut high or plunge low. Underwear isn't necessarily a must, and if you're going to wear some, it should be obvious what Victoria's keeping secret. And remember, slutty dressing is a minimalist art -- less is always better.But a variation on the old the adage still holds true -- the clothes do not make the woman. Now you may look the part, but it doesn't mean anything if there isn't the attitude to back it up. You're going to have to act like you dress. You're a loose woman. You know how to push a man's buttons (and undo them if necessary). You're transparent in your wants and desires. You say the things every guys thinks. You're self-aware. You know who you are and what you want, and you know how to get it. There's nothing you won't do or have done to you.So slutty definitely works. Slutty will get your man hot and bothered. But slutty doesn't make him stay. And it will also get you a disappointed telephone call from your mother because word got back through the grapevine that Joanie Fitzpatrick's youngest saw you dirty dancing in the hottest club in town without any underwear.It's true: A guy will pounce on a slutty girl. It'll give him something to high five about with his boys and be another notch in his belt of manliness. He'll like his slutty girl -- but he isn't going to introduce her to Mom and he sure isn't going to show her off in front of the boss at the company picnic. A guy likes a slutty girl, but he isn't going to marry one.Simon's Story: Straight from the Horse's MouthI used to work in an all male department and we worked twelve to fifteen hour days. In that environment, guys develop a bond. They get comfortable enough to talk about anything -- and honestly. It wasn't exactly the Algonquin Round Table, but it was frank and honest man talk. Eventually, we'd get around to the inevitable "chicks I would/wouldn't do" conversation. The classifications were simple. We were simple guys. The answers were: "Yeah, I'd do her" and "Nah, not a chance," but there was also a third category -- "I'd do her, but I wouldn't stay with her.""I'd do her, but I wouldn't stay with her" -- kind of girls are the slutty girls. A slutty persona is good for a laugh and blowing off steam, but that's it. A guy wants more than that. Scout's honor, he does.SexySexy is akin to slutty, but it's a different animal. Like slutty, sexy requires attitude -- mainly confidence. If a guy sees that you're confident, he's attracted. For a woman to be sexy, she doesn't have to have the best figure, or be the prettiest one in the room. There's something inherently alluring about a woman who understands her sexuality and can display it without having to make a lewd remark or show tons of cleavage.Here's the thing about slutty: It's predominately about the visual. Men are very stimulated by the visual. They're going to look, but it's a short term success. Their attention will move swiftly to the next scantily clad lady.Here's the thing about sexy: It stimulates a guy's imagination. A sexy woman can have a guy's heart fluttering even if she's wearing an overcoat down to her ankles. The persona she's putting out there and the things she says are going to hook him and keep him hooked. A guy will want to know more about this woman. Unlike the slutty woman, where he knows what he's getting, with a sexy woman, he doesn't. He has to work at finding out about her. A sexy woman has depth and it's going to take a long time to reach those depths, so he's going to stick around.And the Winner Is...Sexy. Why does sexy beat slutty? In the long run, sexy is going to keep a guy interested, while slutty has a limited shelf life. No one wants to see a slutty, sixty-year-old woman. It's no different than the older, creepy guy at the nightclub trying to impress the young girls. However, an older sexy woman still turns heads.There you have it -- sexy verses slutty. Sexy wins hands down. Now, there's nothing wrong with slutty if you're just looking for a quick fling. If you want an actual, lasting relationship with a great guy though, slutty doesn't work. It gets real old real soon. Sexy is eternal.The above is an excerpt from the book Will Marry for Food, Sex, and Laundry: How to Get Him -- and How to Keep Him by Simon Oaks. The above excerpt is a digitally scanned reproduction of text from print. Although this excerpt has been proofread, occasional errors may appear due to the scanning process. Please refer to the finished book for accuracy.Copyright ยฉ 2009 Simon Oaks author of Will Marry for Food, Sex, and Laundry: How to Get Him -- and How to Keep HimAuthor BioSimon Oaks, author of Will Marry for Food, Sex, and Laundry: How to Get Him -- and How to Keep Him, is a California transplant from England, who swore he'd remain single for life. But now this former racecar driver turned writer is a bachelor turned husband, and is letting the women out there know the secrets behind making a man commit. He's been happily married now for ten years to his American wife, Julie. The two live together in Richmond, CA.www.simonoaks.com